The other side is in Technicolor

You know that saying "the grass is always greener on the other side" well I have come to the realization that the grass is not greener...but rather in technicolor. It's like in those dreams that seem so real you think it is real, but when you wake up you realize, of course you were dreaming, for one everything was illuminated, and nothing really made sense. This is the real scenario of desire. We always want what we don't have, or want just one more thing to make us happy. But then we get it and poof...it ain't that great or we want something else. Why? How can something that holds so much power over us, driving every fiber in our being to seek it out, disappoint us in the end.

Because, it is in Technicolor! It is not reality. I think we tend to romanticize the things we don't have only to realize, they are just things, they are not magic beans! Without nurturing of our own self we will never be satisfied. Just because I buy a new car, or move to a new city, or change jobs, does not mean I will be infinitely happy. It is the most fulfilling when we learn to love and cherish what we already have. If we can do that, everything else just looks matte, not shinny and glowing...then the grass on the other side is not greener, it is just green, just like your own grass.

This is of course easier said than done. But what I have realized is that the mere acknowledgment of this phenomenon helps me to see the beauty in my own reality and not to day dream as much about an alternate possibility. I am learning, and trying very hard to live in the now, embrace the moment, and love what I already have.

What do you do to embrace yourself, to resist the temptation to jump the fence only to discover that the grass is the same, or better yet, not even there...it's desert landscaping!